Happy For No reason!

 When Buddha professed, “Life is suffering”, he was likely referring not to a gloomy picture of our lives of sadness and suffering but to the constant inner struggle we have with our thoughts and emotions. Thoughts are ceaselessly traveling to the past or to the future – what I did well, what could have been better for me, what I would love to happen and so on. These thoughts are not an occasional occurrence but are a human preoccupation. A human mind typically has over fifty thousand thoughts in a day – and, all these thoughts are accompanied by corresponding emotions. Thoughts of things going are accompanied by feelings of satisfaction and happiness; thoughts of things potentially going wrong lead to emotions of fear and anxiety. As a result, our moods and state of happiness is always at the mercy of our thoughts and emotions. Is there an alternate to this existence? Can one have greater equanimity, irrespective of the direction of thoughts? Can these thoughts be minimized?

 

As we attempt to answer these questions, we need to first recognize what causes these thoughts in the first place. It’s our ego. It’s the notions of ‘I’, ‘me’, and ‘mine’ that we grow up with, which develop a deep sense of independent personality and separateness of our identity. We then begin working towards our own survival and growth and can end up leading an entire life focused on pursuit of personal pleasures. This sense of duality (I am different from others) is the genesis of our thoughts. As long as we see ourselves disjointed from the whole, we will continue to feel incomplete and have thoughts driven by our craving for more (money, success, knowledge, happiness etc.) or fear of losing something that we already possess (money, power, reputation, happiness…).

 

While there are numerous methods out there to deal with this unending train of thoughts, one powerful approach is related to connecting with ‘awareness’ or ‘consciousness’. Awareness is not the mind, or our thoughts; it’s the consciousness which allows us to observe our mind, thoughts, and emotions. If we close our eyes and just focus on the thoughts that arise in our mind, it’s the awareness which allows us to notice these thought patterns and we can notice the observer as distinct from the thinker. We can then train to recognize that this awareness is like a mirror – it only reflects what the mind is going through, without any projections of its own. The mirror has no worries, fears, anger or cravings – its pure awareness, pure consciousness. All the thoughts and accompanying emotions arise in the mind, even though we experience them only through this awareness. As we begin to connect with this inner awareness, we start to realize that this awareness is who we really are. In our normal life, we are so busy with external stimulus that we lose connection with our true inner selves. We can simultaneously learn to comprehend that this awareness is omnipresent, and governs everything; all of us are made of it and that we are all connected and part of the same whole – the awareness continuum. Just observing ourselves, without paying attention to our circumstances or potential outcomes, can be a great way towards liberating ourselves of many of our inner struggles.

 

Being such a witness makes us realize we have no independent identity, which in turn reduces our ego and our overarching sense of separateness and duality. Instead, it initiates us into greater equanimity – that can assist us in reducing our continuous thoughts of craving and clinging, and of judging everything as good or bad. Cultivating equanimity can help us better normalize what the Buddhist teachings identify as the eight variations of our tendency to continually hope and fear – pleasure and pain, praise and blame, gain and loss, fame and disgrace. Practicing mindfulness (by staying connected with our awareness) and an attitude of equanimity can open us up to all types of experiences (pleasant or otherwise) with equal acceptance. In fact, if handled well, suffering can then become another opportunity for further learning and personal growth. Suffering can teach us greater compassion by helping us better appreciate the difficulty of others in similar situation.

 

Of course, one can argue against all these ideas with a “so what, who cares?” attitude. It is so possible to continue living without bothering to analyze these aspects in our daily existence. There’s also the question around, when and where do I begin, if at all? I reckon there are various perspectives to that. I believe we are all at different stages in the circle of life (not ahead of or behind any other) and spirituality works for those who need it at their stage for personal growth. Further, it makes eminent sense to start from wherever we are – we can never be too early for it or too late; our own time is the right one for us. Having said that, once we do become conscious of these aspects, it can be hard to ignore them any further. As Socrates said, “A life not examined is not worth living.” Socrates, who lived at a time not very different from Buddha’s, believed that each person is born with full knowledge of the ultimate truth and we need only be spurned to conscious reflection to become aware of it. Socrates went a step further, to also differentiate between this quest and other self-help processes. Like the contemporary self-improvement trend, there were the Sophists in ancient Greek, who Socrates felt were more driven by imparting worldly knowledge that could be used to further one’s own interests and not really interested in searching for the truth. Like many other philosophers and sages, he believed searching for the truth to be the deepest purpose of human life.

 

As Patanjali, the great Indian sage, said, “The Self is pure, free from decay and death, free from hunger and thirst and free from sorrow. This is the Spirit in man. The only thing this Spirit desires is truth. This is the Spirit that we seek and know: we must each find our own Self. When we have found our Self and gotten to know about it, we have reached the ultimate, and there is nothing more to desire.” In that context, any baby steps we can patiently take towards learning mindfulness, connecting with awareness, gaining equanimity, or striving towards the journey of truth, can greatly help us experience inner joy and peace. With that, more of our actions also tend to arise from pure motivation rather than from desires of gain and loss. We then also no longer need a reason to be happy!

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RECESSION – Reinventing Ourselves in Times of Trouble

By Rajiv Vij – Life and Executive Coach 

In the background of how the current economic and financial crisis is impacting individual lives and families, a leading Indian newspaper had recently asked me to write a short piece on some thoughts around reinventing ourselves in such challenging situations. The same is reproduced below.

Every time we are faced with a real personal crisis — loss of job, onset of a terminal illness, divorce or financial crisis — some of the questions that cross our mind are: Why did this happen to me? Will it ever get better? How will this impact my social position? It is only natural to start feeling down and feel anxious about the future. However, people who have weathered such storms, and whom I have had the opportunity to meet during my corporate career and my life coaching practice, usually say that the crisis was the best thing that happened to them. It made them to get off their treadmill of maddening activity and do some real soul searching towards creating a better and happier future. 

Drawing from those experiences, it may be useful to look at ways of dealing with such crises in multiple dimensions. 

First, it is critical to maintain a healthy sense of optimism about the future — not because we want to psyche ourselves into positive thinking but because things do get better from points of high pessimism. Surveys of people faced with a personal crisis demonstrate that the same people generally feel much better about themselves and life in general just a year after the initial event. It is equally important to have a strong sense of self-belief — the belief that not only will things get better, but that I will also have a meaningful role to play in it. As Graham Bell said, “When one door closes another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.” 

If the crisis involves some form of financial impact, it may be useful to also reflect on our needs and wants. In today’s consumerist society, we constantly want more — a bigger house, a flashier car, a new cellphone. Very often, unfulfilled wants may be the biggest source of disappointment and stress in our lives, and this is accentuated during adverse times. It may be pertinent to ask ourselves whether we need all these gadgets. In most cases, our needs are usually much simpler than our unending wants. 

Further, crisis tests the strength of character. What differentiates the outstanding from the ordinary is not how well they do in good times, but how resilient they are through a crisis. As Albert Einstein said, “Most people say that it is the intellect which makes a great scientist. They are wrong: it is character.” Committing to living with core personal values in all aspects of our life builds character, which provides us with the inner strength to keep forging ahead, and the courage to see our failures as mere stepping stones in the quest for larger goals. 

As they say, the Chinese characters for crisis mean both danger and opportunity. Indeed, a crisis may be an opportunity for unparalleled personal growth. We can easily spend a disproportionate amount of time ruminating over our losses or being anxious about the future. The question is when things do get better, will we be well prepared to take advantage of the new opportunities? Adversity offers the luxury of time to learn and hone new skills — enroll in hobbies or educational courses we always wanted to pursue but never had the time for, perhaps reflect on our true passions and give them shape — this may mean anything from starting a new business or community initiative to discovering latent writing skills. 

Finally, such times also provide us with a unique opportunity to reflect on what’s most important to us—who am I and what is the purpose of my life? Am I pursuing a job, a career or my true calling? Do I want that investment banker job because of its lucrative prospects or because I find true purpose in that work? Engaging in our calling can inspire us to operate at a much higher level and away from the delimiting struggle around external success and recognition. As Patanjali, the great Indian sage, said, “When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.” 

 

TiE – Success Stories

 

 

 

 

RedBus – Riding RedBus with a Mouse Click (Bangalore, India)

SafeMed – Lifesaving Answers in Seconds (San Diego, USA)

Chitika – Connecting Brands, Bloggers & Buyers (Boston, USA)

Kaboodle – In The Cutting Edge (Silicon Valley, USA)

Cucumba – Resurgence of Stressed Out Souls (London, UK)

 

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India’s first-of-its-kind online bus travel portal was extensively supported by TiE Bangalore. This led to the birth of a new industry with redBus enabling passengers to select seats from digital layout and choose from multiple travel operators to pay online using secure payment gateway. This eager start-up company is pioneering a revolution on the roads at the click of a mouse involving search technologies and an entrepreneurial drive that helps offline deliveries.

You can book bus tickets online or over mobile phone and even get home delivery. Booking is possible at over 30,000 plus outlets with over 250 bus travel operators covering over 3600 routes across India and this is growing! Return reservation and cancellation online are also part of the facility offered in 6 languages.

During Diwali 2006 – the festival of lights, when all flat mates went home, Phanindra Sama of Texas Instruments desperately tried to find a bus that would take him to Hyderabad with no success. This was a major driving factor for Phanindra to launch the portal redBus.in along with his BITS-Pilani friends Sudhakar Paspunuri at IBM and Charan Padmaraju in Honeywell. Over weekends, they began building a software to help people find buses suiting them. At that point, they did not think of quitting jobs and it was simply a weekend project. The gamble worked as this site received over 100,000 hits and booked at least 500 tickets daily, encouraging bus providers to register with it.

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SafeMed, a San Diego based healthcare technology company has a bold vision of what the future of healthcare will look like. It’s a future where patients collaborate with their doctors to improve their own health. It’s a future where doctors go beyond simple information gathering on websites or databases to access insightful, patient-specific answers in seconds. And it’s a future that some TiE members are helping SafeMed to forge.

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In 2003, Alden DoRosario, Chitika’s co-founder and CTO along with Venkat Kolluri, CEO, noticed that advertisers were not yet paying attention to the opportunities in the “long tail web” comprising small to medium sized sites. Whereas, web logs (now known as blogs) were clearly being viewed as valuable unbiased information sources by online consumers. It was pretty much expected that advertisers will soon start re-directing their marketing budgets to focus more on web logs. However, at that point, there were no affordable solutions or services available in the market that small to medium sites could use to initiate advertising or e-commerce services on their sites. This prompted both DoRosario and Kolluri to recognize that small to medium websites will soon turn out to be the most lucrative arenas for online advertising.

Full Story @ TiE Global

 

It all started when Manish Chandra and his wife Asha were remodeling their home in 2004. “The whole process of internet shopping and collaborating between us and the decorator was really painful. We forgot which store we liked and it was hard to discover new products on the web.” To make their lives easier as well as the lives of millions of others, Manish started Kaboodle, a social shopping community.

 

 

 

 

Stella, Vivienne and the Cucumba team are on a mission to transform a nation of stressed-out, overworked souls into pampered and polished people. The aim is to transform the industry through an innovative concept where the client simply buys treatments according to the time they need or their budget.

 

Cucumba started trading in September 2005. A lack of capital and low initial take- up of services meant near bankruptcy and closure in March 2006. Vivienne attended a TiE event in autumn 2006 and met charter member Stuart Nicol, who has become her mentor and advisor.